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How to build confidence and speak up for yourself

Confidence: that magical quality we all admire and, at times, wish we had more of. Whether you’re giving a presentation, asking for a promotion, or simply navigating daily life, self-confidence is key to unlocking your potential. But here’s the secret: self-confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s something you build! Like any muscle, it gets stronger the more you work on it.


Having hard time telling your opinion, needs, or even talking to others? Getting anxious around others and lack of confidence?


Don't worry I've got your back.


As a kid I was almost always silent, I was only happy and chatty at home. As an only child got used to be on my own and enjoyed it pretty early on. In kindergarten I sat all day long next to our teacher, so I didn't have to speak to the other kids. Later in school it started to be an issue, because when I had to stand up and speak in front of a class I was talking so low voice no one could hear or understand me. When I went to take my language exam in 8th grade every classmate of mine told me a hundred times "please please speak loud when you are there". And that energy everyone was sending towards me had its positive effect. Also I felt it was going well and gained confidence during the process.


That experience shifted something in my mind and I was like - that's it! I can have that! I can do it that way too!


Ready to boost your self-esteem and walk a little taller? Here’s how to build self-confidence, one step at a time.

If I could do it you can do it too. But you don't have to do it alone and for years. I'm here for you to help. How? Let's see.


Start with self-awareness

Before you can build confidence, you need to understand what’s holding you back. Are you afraid of failure? Do you doubt your abilities? Take time to reflect on your thoughts and habits. Keeping a journal is a great way to uncover patterns of self-doubt and identify areas where you feel insecure. Once you’re aware of these limiting beliefs, you can begin to challenge them. Write down a list of your strengths and accomplishments. When self-doubt creeps in, revisit this list to remind yourself of all the things you’re capable of.


Fake it till you make it. We heard that a thousand times. And you know what? So true throughout our whole life. It is a form of "law of attraction". When you imagine that you have what you wish for.

Try it at home first in your safe space. Dress up in clothes that make you feel empowered, play with hairstyles, make up, whatever helps you to feel the boss babe.


Practice positive self-talk

Your inner dialogue plays a huge role in how you see yourself. If you’re constantly criticizing yourself, it’s no wonder your confidence takes a hit. Practice positive self-talk by replacing negative thoughts with empowering ones. Instead of thinking, "I’m not good enough," try saying, "I’m learning and growing every day."


Mirror work. You can do this in the above situations, and also I encourage you to do it every single morning and evening to literally carve it in your brain. Stand in front of the mirror. We usually look at ourselves and "ah I'm fat, I see wrinkles, hate my hair, blablabla..." Really girl???? Be nice to yourself. No more negative self talk, your brain remembers it forever. Start saying positive affirmations.

I am beautiful.

I am worthy.

I am strong.

I am attractive.

I am confident.

I am smart.

I love me. I love me. I love me.


Smile practice. It is a part of the mirror work, stand there in the morning and just smile at yourself. You will start to notice a shift in your mood instantly! Do you feel better? Just notice that you will smile at others too, even on the streets, in the office, without noticing or mindfully doing it.


Step outside your comfort zone

Confidence doesn’t grow in comfort, it grows when you challenge yourself. Start by doing things that scare you just a little bit. Speak up in a meeting, try a new hobby, travel alone, or introduce yourself to someone new. Each time you push yourself beyond your comfort zone, you’ll gain confidence in your ability to handle unfamiliar situations.


Eye contact. This is one of the scariest thing of all and needs practice. A lot. Again start with yourself in the mirror. Just stare at yourself. After a while start smiling. Do you feel more confident already? Start practicing on others. You can stare and seek eye contact during your walk. Scared that people will find it weird? Don't care about it, most of them won't even look at you because they are afraid too!!! If someone stares back, try to smile. What if anyone comes up to you and askes why are you staring at me? Don't panic. If you are afraid just tell them "sorry I thought you were a friend of mine from a distance and just wanted to say hi" .

If you like that person and confident enough, than compliment. "Oh I like your dress /hair/eyes so much. You look pretty /handsome." People like to hear such things and you can make their day with just one smile or sentence like that. Even make new friends, relationships!


Celebrate your wins

Too often, we move on to the next task without celebrating our achievements. Whether you aced a project at work or simply showed up for yourself on a tough day, take time to acknowledge and celebrate your wins. Recognizing your accomplishments will reinforce the belief that you’re capable of success. Keep a "win jar" where you write down your achievements, no matter how small. On tough days, open the jar and remind yourself of everything you’ve accomplished.


Learn from failure

Failure is not the opposite of success, it’s part of it. The most successful people have faced failure numerous times, but they didn’t let it stop them. Instead, they used it as a learning opportunity. When things don’t go as planned, ask yourself, “What can I learn from this experience?” This mindset shift will help you view failure as a stepping stone rather than a setback.


These are just some quick tips you can implement immediately in your life. If you try them and feel it works DM me your results I always love to hear and share your success stories.

Also if you still feel you can't get past some barriers and need professional advice and find your blocks, book a coaching session. So much easier doing it with help.

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